Your Guide to Using Dildos During Sex

Your Guide to Using Dildos During Sex

“The average heterosexual woman tends to reserve dildos for masturbation,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. But just because a lot of women haven’t doubled their pleasure with faux peen, doesn’t mean you should skip this sexual adventure. You can use them in everything from intense G-spot stimulation to prostate massage and double penetration. Intrigued?

If You’re Sleeping with a Man The first step is talking to your guy about the idea, since you’re probably more familiar with dildos than he is. For example, one of Kerner’s clients told her partner that she fantasized about the feeling of being filled vaginally while he went down on her. When her man heard that, he was game. Also:

Treat him to a sexy show. Let him watch you masturbate and penetrate yourself with the dildo. Then, draw him into the play by pleasuring yourself with it while giving him oral.

Get all up in him. Although prostate massage is becoming increasingly popular, it’s still unfamiliar to many guys-and it triggers a completely new feeling, almost like he has to pee or poop, says Kerner. “Rubbing his perineum (the spot between his butt and balls) can be a great way to ease him into these new sensations.” Have him lie on his back with his knees up, and then press the dildo firmly against his perineum.

Go farther (literally). Insert a finger into his bumusing a reverse come-hither motion. This should help him get accustomed to his sphincter tightening and his prostate being touched. (mais…)